The pace of blog entry has slowed.
I have been learning about moving house, and the first lesson is that there is a lot to do. When you're going from a situation where everything is provided, there is even more to do, because you need to get the various needed things before you can move them. I thought I could live cheaply and simply, but even so there is a surprisingly long list of items that one must have to survive.
The kitchen comes first, because I believe that to live well you have to eat well. I have assorted equipment sitting in a pile. Now I need some books on cooking. An old man I once knew told me that anyone who could read, could cook, and I am about to test that.
But it's an odd feeling contemplating the immediate future. I have been considering how I will feel on closing the front door and finding myself properly alone. It's exciting, but not pleasant in every way. Fortunately I am inherently quite self-reliant, and happy to be so. Even so, I think it would be wise to make an immediate start on finding local friends and getting to know the neighbours, as it's not healthy being alone. A friend offered me very valuable advice along those lines last night, and I'm very grateful because it crystallised something I hadn't properly considered.
I'm quite old enough that I should have been through this before, but there are times when I still feel like a teenager pretending to be an adult. I'm not convinced that will ever pass.
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Life's apparent burdens, trivia, and such, often nourish the pen.There will be many opportunities. In the meantime, don't strain your back (<;
"I still feel like a teenager pretending to be an adult. I'm not convinced that will ever pass."
It will, it will - with your communicating skills you most certainly will. And, it might surprise you, very quickly too.
That is, if you can adapt easily. From my observation, you will.
Actually I quite like still feeling sometimes like a teenager pretending to be an adult - dont totally knock it!!
Making friends - even my daughters find that hard sometimes. I think most people do if they are honest - it takes time and I have learnt that is the thing to remember.
I'll go back to dancing round the room to the Beatles now....
I'm sure your thoughts and feelings reflect those of every young person who decides to become independent and leave the security of their family home.
Sports clubs or interests could be another avenue for friendships e.g. tennis, squash, cricket, camera clubs. There's many possibilities.
Neighbours ..... in London where I live most neighbours respect others’ privacy, but have a good sense of community and are there for you when you need them.
A former member of the Exclusive Brethren recounted to me not long ago that when she and her family (at that point still in fellowship) moved to their new home a neighbour opposite invited her to coffee “to meet the neighbours”. My gentle friend was embarrassed because she had to refuse the invitation, and she muttered an excuse that she only socialised/ate/drank with those with whom she “broke bread”. Her neighbour was mystified but courteous.
The neighbour later moved from the area and in time the EB family left the fellowship. One of the first things my friend did then was to find out her former neighbour’s new address and go round to her house and apologise for her erstwhile rudeness. Her former neighbour was delighted and very understanding.
I wish you wonderful neighbours!
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